If there was one thing I would tell anyone who has anxiety or depression it is the three words above.
I had such a good day with my friend yesterday. We shopped, we had coffee, we ate good food and we talked. Conversations were about everything and anything from the mundane to the serious. At one point I briefly mentioned how ill I have been; not working, struggling to get out of bed each morning, being under the crisis team etc.
My friend said she would never let me get to that point again. She used the phrase, “I would kick your arse if that happened again”. This is exactly what I need. A friend who won’t let me stay at rock bottom but instead will listen and encourage me to keep going.
It has taken me a long time to see the importance of letting people in. I was a firm believer in shutting myself off and not allowing others to know I was struggling. It was a sign of weakness to tell others that I wasn’t coping. But this doesn’t help. It just prolongs my mental suffering.
It’s important to know who you can let in. Mental illness can bring out the best and worst in those around you. I was convinced that I would never have good friends again. But I have some amazing friends. All because I opened up and let them in.